Thanks for joining us on Day 7 of the 30 Thankful Days Challenge. Today we’ll give some thought to honesty. If you haven’t downloaded the free companion journal, here is the link.
Do you have children? Even if you don’t, you’ve got to appreciate the frankness of what comes out of a child’s mouth.
On Day 7 of the “30 Thankful Days” Challenge, we’re being grateful for the honesty of children.
The Honesty of Children
Why are children honest, while adults tend to be less so?
One main reason is that an adult’s mind is typically filled with messages dictating what they should and should not say.
For example, if you asked an adult friend what he or she thought of the outfit you were wearing today, the friend might flashback to memories of their mom saying it isn’t right to hurt someone’s feelings.
So your grown friend might tell you that you look great when really, not so much.
A child is much more likely to just tell it like it is. And we’re much less likely to be offended if we hear the truth coming from a child’s mouth. Because we know kids aren’t trying to be hurtful. They’re just real.
This type of honesty is refreshing. Why wouldn’t we want to know the real opinion of someone who counts with us?
Honesty Without Guile
Another way that kids are honest is they have a way of getting down to the heart of the issue.
Adults, on the other hand, tend to convolute the facts.
Why is this?
Adults often have an agenda behind what they’re saying. Kids typically don’t.
Another reason… adults take great pains to protect their egos, which can result in some odd communications.
If a kid wants a hug, he’ll ask for one. Or, he’ll just HUG you.
It doesn’t work that way with adults — for various reasons, such as fear or discomfort.
We could all stand to be more honest in the way that kids are!
Day 7 JOURNAL EXERCISE: Embracing Child-Like Honesty
Today, we’ll practice being honest and authentic in the way that kids are.
How can we, as grown adults, manage to convey ourselves honestly, report the honest truth about what we see and think, without coming across as rude or immature?
We can practice being more like children.
Children don’t hold onto wrongs. They say what they mean, and move on quickly. Perhaps we can learn how to increase our happiness by modeling our behavior after our children’s.
Children are not generally out to hurt each other. We can be like kids in that if we accidentally offend someone with our truthfulness, we can apologize. “I didn’t mean to hurt you” goes a long way in expressing our truth.
Children are open to other people’s ideas. They listen with their ears, minds, and hearts open and receptive to new concepts. Their minds are not yet wired for judgment!
Opening our minds to what others have to say might help us become more authentic in who we are and what we believe.
If you have children or grandchildren, try to remember and write down five instances where a child you know made an impression on you with his or her honesty. It could be something funny, something profound, or whatever.
Write it down and give it some thought today.
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