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“New Year, New You” 30-Day Positivity Challenge – Day 7

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Hard Times Help Us Appreciate the Good

It’s Day 7 of our “New Year, New You” 30-Day Positivity Challenge. How are you feeling today?

Hopefully, you won’t feel preached to or “talked at” while reading these words. They’re meant to be a gentle nudge toward expanded consciousness and a way to open the door to positive people and opportunities.

Gratitude Every Day?

Do you ever feel as though life is an all-uphill battle, with no relief in sight?

Truth is, some days may be harder than others to allow a feeling of gratitude to permeate our being. But it’s okay to honor these feelings that we all have from time to time.

It can be a challenge to make yourself feel grateful when you’ve just had a terrible argument with your spouse and you went to bad feeling misunderstood, shut out, angry, and hurt.

It can be a challenge to feel grateful when it seems like you give endlessly to your children but all they do is take you for granted and ask you for more.

It can be a challenge to feel grateful when the bills are late or you didn’t get that promotion at work or your mother’s been diagnosed with a serious illness.

But the thing about counting your blessings is… you aren’t expected to force it. In fact, that’s the worst way to bring about a positive mindset.

When you bury difficult feelings or refuse to acknowledge disappointment, these things come up to rear their ugly heads in a more passive-aggressive way that can hurt our relationships.

Use the Hard Times for Strength

So, be honest that not every day feels like a day to be grateful, and that’s okay.

But once you get past those life hurdles and tough situations… you can reflect on the past and appreciate the good that remains.

Maybe you and your spouse had a difficult month… but it caused you to seek counseling, and that’s brought you closer to one another.

Maybe you haven’t felt respected by your kids for a while… but now they are becoming more independent, struggling through their own challenges. And they’ve grown to recognize all that you do for them.

Maybe you didn’t get that promotion. But now you’re inspired to begin building your own business doing what you love.

Exercise 7: What Good Has Come of Your Hard Times?

Life challenges help us grow and master tough lessons. Without them, we would remain stagnant in our development and child-like in our minds.

Wisdom keeps us from making the same mistakes over and over. For this alone, we might decide to feel grateful.

Think about a recent setback or disappointment that you experienced.

How did this experience, though initially discouraging, show you the light of goodness in your life?

What were you able to appreciate once the difficult time passed?

Journal It!

Take some time out of your busy days to write and reflect. Perhaps first thing in the morning is a perfect moment for you to capture your thoughts. Or maybe a late afternoon respite will allow you to express yourself on paper.

Write about a situation that you persevered through despite its challenges.

How did you feel?

What actions did you take to improve your condition?

What did you learn?

What were you able to have an appreciation for that you may have taken for granted prior to this period of growth?

Loving Life — The Reboot!


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  • Tamara

    First of all: happy (belated) birthday! Hope you had was a wonderful day!

    Such an important reminder that sometimes we have to fall, pick ourselves up and regroup in order to appreciate what we have or to move on.

    Sports can teach you these lessons. You train hard, you miss out on fun, you do homework late at night, and then? Game Day: you miss that shot, your oppontents are faster, you’re being benched, the coach frowns at you, your team loses… This wasn’t the way it’s supposed to go. Or was it? My son’s head coach likes to say “time to look in the mirror and ask yourself what you might do better next time.” He also likes to say something else, but I don’t know how swear-word friendly your blog is ;-))))

    • Dominique

      I remember those days when my son played all of his sports. The coaches didn’t hold back the curse words either. LOL

      I played sports a bit when I was younger — it definitely helps build character and fortitude!

  • Martha

    Happy Birthday, you deserved the day off! I think hard times are a way to show us we can overcome anything if we set our mind to it and focus. It may not be quick enough for some but it’s a learning process.

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