“New Year, New You” 30-Day Positivity Challenge — Day 8
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Originally posted on January 25, 2022. Updated on January 22, 2024.
Nourish Your Soul
Ever think about taking a day to clear your mind, replenish your spirit, and feed your soul?
Sometimes your soul gets hungry. You want something more, something deeper and more meaningful. You feel a bit low, empty even.
When someone asks for your time and energy, you have this vague sense of not being able to provide. This is a serious soul-state that needs tending to.
It’s hard to feel blessed in the beauty and joy that’s ever-present in our world when we’re low on sustenance for our souls.
You don’t need a lot of money to feed your soul.
You don’t need an appointment at the nail salon or a fast-food binge-fest to get yourself “all full up” on the delights that life has to offer at every turn.
Those things might offer immediate gratification, sure. But they don’t quite deliver the soul-soothing we’re seeking at this moment.
Your soul needs more than material goods. What it really needs to be happy, may just be as simple as truth and understanding.
So, let’s explore a possible source of these Soul Feeding Essentials.
Truth. Where does truth originate for you?
Truth could be hearing the wise words of a friend who tells it like it is.
Maybe truth speaks to you by way of a brilliant book you’re reading that sheds light on the essence of what it means to be alive.
Truth may emerge from a conversation you had with your coach or counselor. Someone like this can help pull the honest reality of your life from you simply by asking questions, encouraging you to express yourself, and listening.
Truthful statements may look something like this:
- I don’t know what I want to do with my life, and that’s okay.
- Something is amiss with my marriage. I’m not sure what it is, but I’m open to seeking answers.
- I’m giving my all at my job. And yet, I don’t find this fulfilling.
- Sometimes I make mistakes. The people who are important to me make mistakes, too. I accept myself, and others, in all of our perfect imperfectness.
- I went out to have fun, but I was left feeling a little disappointed. Now I’d like to explore why.
- I am happy with the simple things. A kind smile. A genuine compliment. A peaceful afternoon reading a good book.
- Busyness, a brimming social calendar, and “pretending to be busy” are more of a cover or band-aid for the soul. These things look good from afar, but they’re not fulfilling. Simple work and simple pleasures feed my soul.
A good, truth-telling session is a soothing balm for the heart. Do you have a place or person that allows you to be truthful about who you are and where you’re going with your life? Be grateful for the clarity that this brings.
Be Grateful to Seek and Find Understanding.
It’s incredibly satisfying to understand and be understood. And it’s also frustrating when someone doesn’t seem to get you or acknowledge your good intentions. Understanding is something that fills up our souls. Lack of understanding causes the soul to feel pain.
When parents, bosses, spouses, or siblings direct blame on you, it hurts because you feel misunderstood. So what can you do to foster more understanding in your life?
Surround yourself with like minds. The best way to be understood is to commune with like-minded souls. No, not everyone thinks the same way. And yes, we can feel gratitude for many different opinions and points of view.
But, it’s even more gratifying when you find your niche – those folks who already know the tune to the song of your heart, and are ready to sing along with you.
Limit contact with people who oppose you and seem to work against your best interests. If you feel like certain individuals impede your forward progress, and that makes you feel misunderstood, and even brings you farther away from your “soul truth” or genuine purpose, then choose to spend less time with such people.
Doing this will open the door for more opportunities to be with folks who will help you grow, and who can show you the truth of who you are simply by being a supportive presence and comrade that you’re grateful to have in your corner.
Exercise 8: Be Grateful for the Truth of Your Being. Feed Your Own Soul.
Take some time to discover who you are. What are you good at? What revs your engine and gives you healthy pleasure?
If your soul feels like an empty cup that needs replenishing, seek out sources of fulfillment. Look for people, places, and activities that bring you closer to your personal truth, whatever that may be.
Seek out commiseration. Seek to understand, and be understood.
Journal It.
Write down five true statements about the person you are today.
Write down five examples of a time when you felt misunderstood, and the details of what transpired.
Complete the exercise by penning some personal insights into what might have helped you reach a positive understanding.
- What can you do next time to bring your truth to light, understand someone else, and be understood by another?
- How has truth and understanding helped you to feel grateful for the people and circumstances of your life?
Loving Life — The Reboot!
Dominique
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7 Comments
Roy A Ackerman, PhD EA
I use my morning prayers to get my thoughts aligned and ready for the world. The nighttime prayers are when I reflect on the day and what was great.
Dominique
I like that! Thank you for sharing!
Tamara
I’m lucky to have a best friend who is that person to me. She’s a fellow working Mom and even busier than I am. I’ll drop her a note tonight.
I had a misunderstanding with a former supervisor almost 25 years ago, and I am still at loss about what I could have done other than asking “is this (fill in tasks) what you want me to do?” He then told me to wait, he would give me further instructions when the time comes. In the eve of his deadline he asked for my work, which I had not done as I was under the impression he’d give me the green light, as he had told me. I’ll never forget his disappointed look. I felt so guilty but I had to go to evening class and said “next time when I ask you, give me a straight answer.” He got over it.
Dominique
I am sure everyone has one or two incidents that continue to nag at you years later. Not really serious issues but they just stay with you.
Victoria Juster
I meditate before sleeping to clear the days energy and then in the morning to start the day fresh. I’ve learned that many people only allow themselves to hear from their own perspective. If I’ve done my best to be clear and am still misunderstood, I have to let it go. Great suggestions, Dominique! I especially liked feeding your soul.
Shepherds Run Farm
One of the greatest things I learned many years ago was that as an adult, I had the power and the permission to limit my exposure to people who brought pain or unpleasantness in my life. I began eliminating those type of people when I could. It made a huge difference; less pain. But it also provided a sense of empowerment. It meant I didn’t have to “just accept” so-and-so and their painful behaviours. I was free to pick and choose the individuals that I wanted to be part of my inner circle.
Victoria Juster
Starting my day with clear thoughts is what gets me through. Like Roy mentioned, I do the same. Thanks for sharing!