Pro-Tips that Guard your Energy Against Emotionally Draining People
It’s Day 7 of the Ultimate Blog Challenge. We are one week in. Have you learned about ways to generate or protect your energy?
Are they tips that you can put to good use? Find a post that relates to your life and see if the tips included help you.
Today we look at more tips on dealing with emotional draining people.
It’s hard enough to generate enough energy on your own without having to worry about someone else draining it. Some people are tough to be around, and it can zap your energy and make it harder to get through the day. If you are unfortunate enough to be in a close relationship with someone who is draining, it can be an ongoing struggle. It’s easy enough to say guard yourself, but how do you guard your energy against draining people?
Protecting your energy and keeping it up is a challenge when the people around you cause drama, chaos, and pain. If everyone could manage their own behavior, it would be so much easier to remain energetic. The best defense is a great offense. Here are some pro-tips to help you guard your energy from draining people.
Pro-tips
Pro-tip: Know what type of people zap your energy. It may be obvious when someone is wearing you out, but it isn’t always. Some people can wear you out…even when you enjoy their company. Become aware of what type of people and social situations drain your energy. Some examples could include-
- People who require constant emotional support- Insecure people require a lot of emotional support. Though they may be delightful human beings, their need for approval and engagement can be exhausting.
- People who overanalyze and complicate things- From conspiracy theories to micro-managers, people who need to process everything verbally can be draining. Setting a limit for how much you engage these types of people can help you maintain your energy.
- Intense social situations- Whether it’s a contentious family dinner or a protest, intense social situations can be draining. Standing up for cause can be important but diving too deeply into multiple social settings that are chaotic and intense can zap the energy you need for day-to-day activities.
Be conscientious about who you are around on a regular basis as well as what social situations you find yourself in. Limit the types of draining people and situations to the minimum possible.
Pro-tip: Use smart socialization skills
Choose your activities wisely- Whether an activity is emotionally or physically draining, be sure to guard yourself from intense social situations. This might require opting out of an intense meeting or declining an invitation to a party because of who might be there. It’s more important to guard your energy than to be popular. Some examples of social situations you may want to avoid could be-
Unstructured parties- Gathering for the sake of getting together can be fun! A BBQ or a potluck can be a great way to see people you don’t ordinarily have time for. Unstructured parties can also be draining. Without a common focus or activity to participate in, unstructured parties can be a breeding ground for stress. Introverts and people with social anxieties can find party’s painful. There’s nothing wrong with avoiding parties to maintain your energy.
Dysfunctional family gatherings- Nothing puts more pressure on people to do things they don’t want to do than holiday’s and family. The expectation to be together out of respect for the season and the institution of family can cause a lot of stress. Stand up for yourself and your immediate family and refuse to attend dysfunctional family gatherings that simply rob you of your energy.
Operating out of obligation and attending social gatherings you’d rather avoid isn’t healthy. It doesn’t do any good to allow draining people into your personal space intentionally. There are enough things draining you already. Learn to set healthy boundaries and control your environment as best you can by identifying and avoiding the people and places that zap your energy.
Conclusion
You can take charge of your life and limit the people and the experiences that drain you. Setting healthy boundaries with the people who drain your energy and avoiding occasions that wear you out emotionally helps. In the long run, you’ll have more energy and feel more in control of your life.
Loving Life — The Reboot!
Dominique
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Cathy
Thanks for a great post. We can drain our energy without even thinking. Your points will give a lot of people a chance to save their energy. It’s an ongoing project, so printing this out and journaling on it daily would be helpful too.
Dr Renee Cohn Jones
I love how you break this down into “Types” of energy-drainers and then provide Socialization skills “Ideas.” I have learned that I need to be very careful of my boundaries when I am around “energy vampires.” While I don’t often completely avoid the situation (i.e., party/family gathering), I do limit my time and even make other plans that are energy boosters immediately after the contact. 🙂
Jaime
Hi Dominique, thank you for sharing your tips on protecting energy from individuals and how to apply it in social gatherings with larger groups. I kind of feel like last year was a peak year for introverts like me who like to be alone, I had a blast. However, I did use the time to learn strategies such as you suggested to learn how to get back into healthy social groups. The most recent book I read on this topic was, “Dodging Engergy Vampires,” by Dr. Christiane Northrup. I will be using all these tips to set my personal boundaries and help maintain a positive flow of energy and high vibrations.
Sending lots of love and gratitude,
Jaime
Brianne
Everyone needs to read this and really take it in. There are highly toxic people out there who will drain every last bit of energy out of your spirit. It’s important to not let that happen.
Kuntala
I absolutely love this post. There are so many people out there who will just drain you. It’s important to protect yourself. It can really impact your mental and spiritual health.
Heather
I feel like you are speaking directly to me. I have a number of people like this in my life.
Gervin Khan
Great post. This is definitely helpful to all people who are experiencing this kind of situation like me. Thank you!
Maysz
Wow I love this topic! I’ll always to remove myself from toxic people to enjoy my own company. Don’t let yourself drained with this uncertain people always save youself.
Jojo Reyes Jr
These are helpful tips to guard one’s energy. Thank you for sharing.
Lily
I actually had to disconnect from a friend because of her training energy. She constantly had things to complain about and it become very depleting.
Anosa Malanga
Indeed a great post. I hope this will reach many readers out there who really need this. I, myself suffered something like this and it’s not easy to deal but we can overcome it. Toxic people should really be eliminated in our system.
Erik the Hungry Traveller
This is so helpful, we live in a world that has so much negativity and stress that we need to detach ourselves from people who feeds are inner deamons. Thanks for sharing the suggestions and I chuckled when i read the part about impromptu parties. That’s my tribes style since when we plan it ahead it never does seem to happen.
Nyxie
This is such a useful post! It took me a long time to learn how to put my boundaries up! But once I did, it opened many more doors for me.